Love may be born from friendship or in some cases, friendship is just a reason for one-side lovers. Often these both words Friendship and Love are misinterpreted creating disturbances in one’s life. It is quite fair to differentiate both of them. A strong wall is to be built by us because we tend to get into social relations with lots of people. The misinterpretation is common. Building a wall refers to one’s perspective. It may be easy/difficult to construct a relation but it’s definitely not difficult to break a relation ( even when you assume them to be the most understanding people of your life).
Basically why is there a confusion between love and friendship?
Love has a new meaning in the 21st Century. There has been many forms of interaction among people. Ways of communication are wide. Chatting, video calls, meetings, datings have come up. People have become commercial ( not meant to ‘all’). They wish to adopt modern culture, became technology centric. They want to get exposed as modern, wish themselves to get highlighted, liked by others, praised by the loved ones. All these are common instincts and good if its limited. Once the extensive craving begins, your attitude followed by nature takes a U-turn unknowingly. This need not pertain to everybody but few definitely. Things like Love, friendship, lust, gang, circle are no longer an option. It has become a form of urgency in the word of ‘Prestige’ or ‘Status’.
In India, in the 18th-19th century, friends are only meant to meet in schools, colleges. They were hardly connected socially. They had few neighbours to play outsides homes. Technology is not very quick. People were family oriented and too much of male-female interaction wasn’t performed and encouraged as well. It doesn’t mean there were no love stories at all.
Previously, Love was much of a quality. Love was only an option but not an urgency. Feelings were genuine. They wished to lead their lives together until death. It was not a mere pressure of actions. Compromising has been their priority because life is meant to revolve around it.
The today’s 21st generations kids are not aware of True Love. They are either mishandling or misusing it. People use others in the name of Love for money, timepass or physical pleasures, pickups and drops, enjoying a day-out at a resort, write records, assignments etc. A girl chats with a boy (not a close friend) 18hrs a day but she had no intention to love because she didn’t view him in that aspect. A boy shares good, bad, talks about life and everything but has no intention to lead her.
Loneliness often tends us to end up in attractions. But Love is something to be looked beyond perfections and not weaknesses. Helping in need, motivation in failure is mistook to be Love. One tries to arose feelings in others so as to become popular or for one’s own pleasure. This has become most of the trend in modern love. Of-course True Lovers exist.
There might be just an invisible ray of feeling separating a best friend and a lover. You are ready to plan your future with him/her. Every mistake of a friend do not bother you but a single mistake of your partner will emotionally and personally hurt you. You always expect you partner to share everything. Secrets are unbearable. Your heart always beats for the one and is always involved in setting the person right. Even a minute change in the behaviour of your partner will stir thousands of feelings. You plan all that are required to make up a good family in the future. Your level of understanding overshadows Ego and Misunderstandings. Misunderstanding might occur in the process of fear of losing each other out of immense Love.